Im so confused i just know i love him and miss him so much?

I broke up with him a few days ago. We also broke up for one day a few months ago, for the same reasons as now. BUT we got back together because we know we care and love each other SO much. Me and him are great together. The problem comes from outside issues, me being a more independent person and him being a more dependent person, and its because of his family, they keep him being dependent(and dependent on them, and they like it that way it seems). Anyone ever seen the show everybody loves ramon? He lives at home and works with his family as well. They eat together all the time, supper, lunch and breakfast. I don't have regular 9-5 hours with my job. So it was like if I wasn't there, it was like where is she? If I'm just chilling at my place doing nothing, it was like why isn't she here? When we broke up before I told him I needed more alone time with JUST him. Things did start to change, so I had hope, he actually heard me and cared, I saw him trying more to make time. BUT then he would hear about it if he wasn’t there for something(whether he was actually needed to be there or not), or his mom would be calling, where are you and what are you doing (yes it was his mom or dad, I would answer his phone or see the call). If I said something to him it would cause tension/stress with us, because it was his family and he did work with them. BUT it was like they had to control him, like he didn’t have his OWN life as well just there together family life. If he went out with the dad and brother for work (construction type job) it was like they (the family) would think I could just stay with the mom and brothers gf. BUT I have my own life too!! So I just let it all out the other night, because I was pms'ing I guess lol. But I have also felt his family noticing me becoming distance with them and so they have been shunning me in return. I just felt like I was making things worse and that I didn’t fit in I guess. My bf would ure me that he loved me and that he liked the way I was, he didn’t need me to always be with his family if he wasn’t there, he actually agreed that some personal time alone is good for a relationship. He said he had also stuck up for me with his family (which I didn’t know about until after we broke up) but just the feeling that he even had to stick up for me anyway, hurts, because then obviously the family said something about me negatively. Ex. of how controlling they are, he couldn’t even go out and get a coffee right down the street, they said NO, he had hurt his knee, but it had been a week and he wanted to get out of the house and it would had been fine if he did, it would had been good to get out instead of being there( it had been making him cranky being inside all the time), but they told this 22yo man no. Also no privacy over there, if we were to harmlessly watch a movie in his room, we would get interrupted at less twice by you know who...we're in our 20's. I know its the parents house, and I get the respect thing, but its like 1130 at night and the parents bedroom is downstairs! but his mom has to come in to say goodnight ( are you kidding me) so now that you have an idea about my situation....but still so many more examples I could give lol.... in the end he told me before I was his soul mate and I feel the same way...we had a good thing between us, and now because I couldn’t handle his family and flipped my lid the other night, I think I have really loss him... I know in time I will be okay... and heartache makes you stronger... but whatever... he was perfect for me and we had so much fun and in common together, but should I just give up this time...or should I wait to see if he tries to get back with me...should I let him just be... its so hard, I feel sick and upset and alone... please some input on my "everybody loves ramon" situation.